Some of us are being invited to a different wedding every week. And those of us who are not married or in a committed relationship may want to take a date! If you want to take a “plus one,” there are some general things to avoid and things to do to make it a nice night without drama! Today we’ll give some advice on taking a date to a wedding!
While you aren’t expected to match your date, dress as the dress code requires. A suit that is clean, fits well, and is in style is always a safe bet, regardless of the season, time of day, and the formality of the wedding.
Make sure you can bring a date
Clear both the person you’ve invited and that you can bring someone before showing up to a wedding with a date. Without proper notice, things can get awkward. Your date may not have a place to sit, a plate of food, and it could just come across as rude to the bride and groom.
If you’re in a stable relationship and you were at the time you were invited, don’t assume your partner is automatically invited. Clear their attendance with the bride and groom.
If you’re unsure…
If you think you’re likely to bring a date when you RSVP, ask ahead of time if you can bring someone. It’s better to not show up with a date when you said you would than show up with one uninvited. That way there’s less pressure if you and your partner split right before the wedding. You can bring a friend or a romantic interest.
Don’t lie to your date
If you want this to be just a fun outing, let them know. If you have romantic intentions, let them know. Don’t just say “want to go to a wedding with me?” and leave it at that. Let them know who the wedding is for, their relation to you, why you asked them, etc.
“Wedding Date” can sound like a serious next step…
If you’re seeing someone and you invite them to a wedding, expect them to ask if this means your relationship is getting more serious. Follow tip 5 on how to handle this.
Pay attention to your date
Whether it’s a friend, family member, or romantic interest, don’t ignore them. You can dance with someone else, but don’t flirt with other guests if you brought a “date date,” and don’t run off without notice even if your date is your cousin.
Introduce your date
Make them feel included, introduce them to other guests or the wedding party, help them get to know others, and make sure they know they’re welcome to the party.
Don’t overdo anything
Do not drink too much, do not overeat (causing laziness or lethargy). Do not make huge shows of affection towards your date, and just be a good guest. You don’t need to draw attention to yourselves on someone else’s wedding day!
Have manners, show your date a good time, and be a gentleman! Don’t let your date get lost, feel alone, over a drink, get upset, or feel as if they’re not having fun.